[Elena Gilbert]

I will give some background first and make it as short as possible. My girlfriend and i have been dating for 1 year but ever since we started her parents weren't so acceptance of me since i was not the same religion as they were and that they wanted her to focus on her studies. Eventually her mother liked me but then her father started being controlling etc, my girlfriend and i passed through a hard time where we both weren't okay and they saw her not being okay and assumed i am a bad guy and treating her badly when in fact i was helping her ( she had an issue when she was a kid and she pretends to be someone else so people like her, some take advantage of her and im telling her don't hang with these '' friends '' anymore find other friends who deserves you ) but my girlfriend thought im being controlling so they guessed im a bad person. Now they aren't letting her use the phone, they took the phone away from her, they blocked me from her phone and not letting her get out of the room and she has to always study and she can't date me anymore and they even went to a point where they told her either him or us even tho it seems they were giving her a chance they aren't really they are being controlling and her father sometimes gets angry and would actually hit her, let alone that he got her a car and want to put tracker on it so he knows where she comes and goes and he wants to limit the distance driven by the car so she doesn't go far.
Her parents hear a lot of negative stuff about my religion, or about anything really and they are afraid their daughter would fal for it such as running away with me so they are somewhat locking her away.
It's been like that on and off lately but i don't know what to do anymore because her parents thinks i will hurt her and them when they knew i had her passwords ( she has mine too btw ) idk why they would think that but they think im hacking them or something when in fact i am not he blamed me for hacking him when he was actually miss typing in the keyboard.. anyway lately they forced her to change passwords but one of her accounts was linked to my number and mail for her protection because i knew her parents would do that so i gave her all the numbers and codes necessary to access the account and change the password except one it didnt go through and i really did not notice that and they got so mad thinking ill will hurt their daughter and that is why i did not give the code etc.. anyway they blocked me from her phone and aren't letting her touch her phone.
What should i exactly do? Please feel free to ask any question if it may help helping me..
Question 1 ) What can i do now? Question 2 ) Should i talk to her mother in a respectful manner and try to explain to her what she is doing isn't for her daughter's good? Not about me really about that they are pressuring her and her exams are coming up soon she can't fail them because she already did before and she lost hope and is so broken down and they keep pressuring her and doing all these and she can not focus..

[CYB3RM4N]

Just to be clear, what's your religion? You've only been dating this girl for a month, I think the fact that her parents are involved might say that you two are moving too fast.

I agree, her father seems to be a bit controlling, with all the threats about tracking her every move and such.

I don't think talking to her a mother would do you any good, since you kinda also need her father's approval. It's also not that great to suggest to a parent how they should be parenting, especially since they've only known you for a month (I'm assuming)

What does your girlfriend think of the situation? Have you spoken to her about it? Since her exams are coming up, you would want her to focus on her studies, and do her best. I'd suggest you let her do that. Let her know that her exams are kinda important, and even though this is probably causing you and her a ton of stress, she has her grades to worry about.

Talk to her about this whole situation after her exams is what I'd do. Go on a "break" as many would call it. Good luck.

[Aqzxk]

Crazy.

Don't even bother. If they go to that length they probably don't want to see you again.

[Elena Gilbert]

Just to be clear, what's your religion? You've only been dating this girl for a month, I think the fact that her parents are involved might say that you two are moving too fast.

I agree, her father seems to be a bit controlling, with all the threats about tracking her every move and such.

I don't think talking to her a mother would do you any good, since you kinda also need her father's approval. It's also not that great to suggest to a parent how they should be parenting, especially since they've only known you for a month (I'm assuming)

What does your girlfriend think of the situation? Have you spoken to her about it? Since her exams are coming up, you would want her to focus on her studies, and do her best. I'd suggest you let her do that. Let her know that her exams are kinda important, and even though this is probably causing you and her a ton of stress, she has her grades to worry about.

Talk to her about this whole situation after her exams is what I'd do. Go on a "break" as many would call it. Good luck.

I am sorry i corrected it, i have been with her 1 year and i've known her for 8 months before this 1 year..
I am a muslim on papers but i have had my baptism.

She feels so stressed, so pressured and she can't even focus she told me that she can't focus at all they aren't letting her out of her room, all she needs to do according to them is study and im with that but not pressuring her and threatening her and not letting her talk to me at all etc.. she can't focus at all..

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Crazy.

Don't even bother. If they go to that length they probably don't want to see you again.

Is it only me that believes i should not just give up on her because of her parents?

[CYB3RM4N]

I am sorry i corrected it, i have been with her 1 year and i've known her for 8 months before this 1 year..

She feels so stressed, so pressured and she can't even focus she told me that she can't focus at all they aren't letting her out of her room, all she needs to do according to them is study and im with that but not pressuring her and threatening her and not letting her talk to me at all etc.. she can't focus at all..

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Is it only me that believes i should not just give up on her because of her parents?

No worries man.

Look, I think you need two need to take some time off from each other. She needs to focus on her exams, which, her parents are going to give her hell for if she doesn't do well, which, would add on to the stress she is already feeling - not good. And you could use some time off too, to clear your head, think about what you want to say to her, and/or try to work things out.

She's not focusing, and you're not doing any good for her right now. Her parents clearly don't like you, and that's a very difficult thing to change, unfortunately.

[Elena Gilbert]

No worries man.

Look, I think you need two need to take some time off from each other. She needs to focus on her exams, which, her parents are going to give her hell for if she doesn't do well, which, would add on to the stress she is already feeling - not good. And you could use some time off too, to clear your head, think about what you want to say to her, and/or try to work things out.

She's not focusing, and you're not doing any good for her right now. Her parents clearly don't like you, and that's a very difficult thing to change, unfortunately.

I am not necessarily looking for them to change but for her to stand up ( not now ofcourse )
I am not even talking to her, they took away her phone and blocked me everywhere and she is not allowed to do anything at all. So that is what's making her not focus much anymore..

[CYB3RM4N]

I am not necessarily looking for them to change but for her to stand up ( not now ofcourse )
I am not even talking to her, they took away her phone and blocked me everywhere and she is not allowed to do anything at all. So that is what's making her not focus much anymore..

I don't think you should stand up to her parents. I almost guarantee it won't end well for you. They'll most likely force you two apart. And you're probably gonna be like "love knows no boundaries" blah blah but sometimes things don't work out the way you want them to. I'm sorry.

The ultimatum would be to break up, since her parents clearly don't approve of you. And I know parental approval is not something super important, or a determiner for your relationship, but they seem very very determined to separate you two. You could try to win their approval, but it's gonna be super difficult.

Wait till after her exams are over, maybe she'll get her phone back and be "ungrounded". Talk to her then, ask her how she feels, what she thinks is best to do. She knows her parents better than you do.

Best of luck my man, you'll need it.

[pstills01]

I'm in definite agreeance with space and time. Religion is tricky, I was lucky to find an atheist like myself in such a religiously influenced area, but what you're looking at is something that will not get better with you pushing. Even if she loves you it may turn toxic and become hate just because you're allowing yourself to bring her more stress in an important time of her life. You both need to grab a breather and she needs to decide how she wants to live her life, because that type of control won't stop unless she makes it.

[abelgukwe97]

You're on a tight spot bro lol.. wish you all the best though

[Αyden]

I know it sounds shitty dude but let her go. You're young, way more fish in the sea.

[Impervious.]

Pretty big issue.
Assuming you're around 15-16 considering at ages older than this these things dont matter as much.

What I'd do is just let go, in the end her parents are controlling on a level that's off the charts and the girl has lived with that her whole life. You wouldn't be the first guy to have this happen with.
Behaviour like that usually sparks over to the kid as well which might eventually lead to an abusive relationship towards you.

Just let it go for both of your sakes.

[AmericanExpress]

I agree with Ayden honestly just move on and find someone else... Because if she doesn't want to see you either than that is also her decision. There is no point seeming needy and begging for attention from her or trying to be with her because it takes two to make it work. I know it isn't what you might want to hear but at the end of the day all you can do is move on if herself doesn't want the relationship to work anymore. Besides, you might find someone else who you like even more who fits your personality better, who knows.

[Elena Gilbert]

Pretty big issue.
Assuming you're around 15-16 considering at ages older than this these things dont matter as much.

What I'd do is just let go, in the end her parents are controlling on a level that's off the charts and the girl has lived with that her whole life. You wouldn't be the first guy to have this happen with.
Behaviour like that usually sparks over to the kid as well which might eventually lead to an abusive relationship towards you.

Just let it go for both of your sakes.

Actually we are both 20..

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I agree with Ayden honestly just move on and find someone else... Because if she doesn't want to see you either than that is also her decision. There is no point seeming needy and begging for attention from her or trying to be with her because it takes two to make it work. I know it isn't what you might want to hear but at the end of the day all you can do is move on if herself doesn't want the relationship to work anymore. Besides, you might find someone else who you like even more who fits your personality better, who knows.

Actually she wants to be with me but she is afraid her father might hurt me

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No worries man.

Look, I think you need two need to take some time off from each other. She needs to focus on her exams, which, her parents are going to give her hell for if she doesn't do well, which, would add on to the stress she is already feeling - not good. And you could use some time off too, to clear your head, think about what you want to say to her, and/or try to work things out.

She's not focusing, and you're not doing any good for her right now. Her parents clearly don't like you, and that's a very difficult thing to change, unfortunately.

I am taking time off until she finished her exam but the thing is even her parents are not making it easier on her to focus.

[Bossk]

SEPARATE YOUR TEXT im not reading this

[Impervious.]

Actually we are both 20..

If that's the case her parents should really back off, this could legitimately be considered abuse. She should be allowed to be her own person. Honestly, If I had parents like that I'd have been long gone out of that house.
Maybe you could help her financially to set her up or something, or take her in if she desires so.