NOT SUICIDAL
Title sounded kinda fucked, but it’s still what I am trying to get. To provide some back story for my post the place I am currently residing isn’t really working out for me anymore I got 4 years of school left and then I’m on my own which I’m so so excited and prepared for but I have to complete these 4 years. I am residing at my mothers house currently and we do not get along for the life of me no matter how hard I try we’re not compatible and our constant fighting/bickering/bitching is driving me to a dark place mentally I worked so hard to finally recover from so today was the final straw and she finally told me to just get the fuck out. I totally would have but the problem is the place id be moving is somewhere new, I don’t have many friends but the friends I do have I am extremely close to so that would be hard for me to leave behind but other then that I don’t have much to stay for if I leave though my life may change entirely If I can’t complete my 4 years of schooling where I’d be moving and would immediately be working which isn’t part of my life plan. Sorry for any typos real long typing fast and angry
Jul 21, 2020 11:35 AM
(This post was last modified: Jul 21, 2020 11:36 AM by Maxie.)
I'd go for moving out man. I was in a similar place 2 years ago, I moved in with my ex, we broke up almost immediately, so I moved back home (I was moving from my parents and returned to them). Once back I realised that I didn't at all enjoy living with them, my parents are mostly great, but you get tired at not being your own person and having to abide rules, so I moved out again, alone. It was terrifying at first, I definitely had a lot of anxiety in life, even before moving out for the first time, but after a while of just being my own person and creating my own identity, I feel great.
Good friends will remain anyway, just make sure you keep in touch when you have the time and opportunity.
I had 3 years off school left when I moved out as well. I now have 1.
(Jul 21, 2020 11:35 AM)Maxie Wrote: I'd go for moving out man. I was in a similar place 2 years ago, I moved in with my ex, we broke up almost immediately, so I moved back home (I was moving from my parents and returned to them). Once back I realised that I didn't at all enjoy living with them, my parents are mostly great, but you get tired at not being your own person and having to abide rules, so I moved out again, alone. It was terrifying at first, I definitely had a lot of anxiety in life, even before moving out for the first time, but after a while of just being my own person and creating my own identity, I feel great.
Good friends will remain anyway, just make sure you keep in touch when you have the time and opportunity. Yeah bro I think you’re right. I feel like it’s because I lived in the same house as a kid and dealt with the same bitchy person as a kid I’m just at my limits and I think you are right change is worth it I would rather take on change then continue this constant misery
DO NOT DEAL WITH THIS MEMBER
honestly the people you live with have a huge impact on your life, especially in negative environments how will you ever thrive? I moved out of my moms house at 19 and I never looked back. sometimes I have been screwed over by people saying they will be my roommates and ending up me having to sleep on some friend's couches for a few weeks. worst case scenarios. and now my mom and I have a much better relationship.
(Jul 21, 2020 01:23 PM)Popstar Wrote: honestly the people you live with have a huge impact on your life, especially in negative environments how will you ever thrive? I moved out of my moms house at 19 and I never looked back. sometimes I have been screwed over by people saying they will be my roommates and ending up me having to sleep on some friend's couches for a few weeks. worst case scenarios. and now my mom and I have a much better relationship.
Shit man I feel you, and that completely makes sense being around negative ass no good vibed people can bring you down entirely that’s so true.
If I were you, I know 4 years is a long time but I'd choose to wait seeing as money could be an issue, so could your friendships/ relationships & it sounds shallow but if you've dealt with your mother and other issues for this long, another 4 years of hard work will shape you into being a stronger person, whether you'd like to admit it or not. I've always had problems with my mother and family, my whole life I've dealt being taken away from her, having people will authority getting involved an I didn't think I could come out alive. I was always like, '10 more years', '5 more years', '2 more years', and it gets to a point where you don't even care and when you do move out it doesn't seem like a big deal anymore. I know you really wanna get away or have a more positive life and healthier mindset but as long as you know your limits and distract yourself as much as possible for the time being, I have faith everything will work out okay. If you do choose to move out though, remember money, relationships and the aftermath - don't do things out of impulse.
|
