[Rigel]

Anonymous Life Counseling
by Coppersan

The last thread died but I'm here to revive it.

What is this?

This thread could be seen as a help desk. Unfortunately, there is one main problem with help desks that are about people's personal life: anonymity. On this thread, I'll post my advice, everyone can see it, but no one will know that you were the one who told me about your problem nor will I know who sent me their problem so you can be sure that other people on Hack Forums won't know your identity.

How does this work?

All you have to do is visit this link and describe your problem. I will get notified of the submission, and will do my best to reply asap, and to the best of my ability.

What can you ask me?

You can ask me anything related to your personal life; doesn't matter if it's about your family, love, or sexuality. Everything related to your personal life will be answered. If I think you're trolling, I will skip your problem but I'm doing this assuming we're all mature enough not to troll. People need help in this world and I'd be willing to do so.

[Rigel]

Your intention is good but I was wondering how exactly you are going to offer fresh/solid, beneficial advice? This isn't a challenge nor a hate post but a very genuine question because from what I've seen on the forums, the non-technical advice given in the innuendo section tends to be highly anecdotal and subjective... potentially leading to more complications for the individual having said problems. Not only that, but it tends to be biased and very one-sided as none of us know what the given situation really comprises of, who is truly involved, who is really the victim, etc. I feel like lending an ear is a fantastic way to give back to the community but I'm very unsure about the unprofessional advice giving.

Well I have some social work experience and a BA in psychology under the belt so it's not completely unprofessional advice. And unfortunately, even in a professional setting, that's always a risk because the patient isn't forced to divulge all the details unless they want to and advice is only given based on what the patient tells us and what they allow us to connect. They are still capable of hiding what seems to be immaterial but very important which could change everything and the advice can just go in one ear and out the other because you can give all the advice in the world yet the person won't follow it.

I cannot control all these situations but will still try to provide support as best as I can.

[vitafortis]

Great person, and very smart. I suggest listening to all advice Marcellow has to offer.

[Fix Yo Bottles]

If you need any help, feel free to throw me a PM, I currently have my own help desk and wouldn't mind joining this one.

[Rigel]

If you need any help, feel free to throw me a PM, I currently have my own help desk and wouldn't mind joining this one.

I could use some help depending how popular this gets.

I'm currently a senior in High School. I'm also male, btw. So one of my best friends has a really, really cute sister. She's currently one grade below us, and ever since I could remember I've thought she was really attractive. I've even told my friend how pretty I think she is. I don't know if it's the right thing to make a move on her at all. Come on, she's my best friend's sister. I'm not going to be one of those douchebags just to get in her pants, as I would put my time and dedication to her.

I honestly don't know what to do and it's been a struggle for countless amount of years. Try and get it know her, or just move on?

This can work out, my friend. You can get closer to her and see how compatible you two are, getting to know her and expanding on later conversation from what her interests and hobbies are. If you like soccer and she does too, you can bond and talk about the sport together and sharing knowledge. The key here is to listen and show her you've been paying attention to what she's saying. If you get a positive vibe from her and she's giving you signals that she might like you as more than a friend, you shouldn't take it any further until you get her brother's approval and see if he would be okay with it.

ok, so I recently got back into contact with this girl I like, She contacted me and I found out she's liked me for a while. So we went out on a walk to just talk and just to see each other really, I really liked this girl and didn't want to mess it up like I did last time so I became really shy and couldn't say a word I tried explaining to her the situation and she said it didn't matter and she just enjoyed being out with me, So we agreed to go out another time we, and we did I was a lot more comfortable this time and she seemed as though she was enjoying her self,to an extent and as the "Date" ended she was really touchy with me and talking about how she likes my company and wants me to talk to her all the time, Yet doesn't seem to enthuathiastic about coming out again with me and when I start talking to her she just like doesn't seem interested she makes me have to start all convos now and then never really gets into them, I haven't spoke to her for 2 days I feel like I made her think im boring and is uninterested in me now.

do you think I can make her feel like im interesting?
thanks.

You might have taken a long time and, depending on how your body language played out at the end of the date, she probably got the idea that you're not interested in anything more than a friendship. Either that or she's met some other guy who really got her attention. These are just possibilities; for all we know, she might be having a difficult time due to something irrelevant to her love life. Communication is essential and I would ask her if she's feeling okay, what's going on and let her know that you're willing to lend her an ear.

Well you are saying ur service is still availbe but you still didn't reply to mine.
*the guy who u had the long talk with *

I'm so sorry, the last thread just died. Where were we?

lol
how anyone supposed to get replies from this shit

You get answers here, you just gotta check this thread for the reply.

[cyberducky]

This is great for me. I occasionally become severely depressed and it helps to vent my feelings to people I don't know.

[Fix Yo Bottles]

Awesome, well feel free to add me to the OP, let me know :)

[Cyber Saint]

Vouch for Marcellow. He is very deserving of that Phoenix userbar and if you need some help, he's the one to come to.

[Rigel]

Awesome, well feel free to add me to the OP, let me know :)

All right, I've added you to the thread and will PM you further information.

Vouch for Marcellow. He is very deserving of that Phoenix userbar and if you need some help, he's
the one to come to.

Thank you.^^

ight, legit question, how much money do you make irl and also whats you main way of earning money on the internet?
thx

I make like 100$ a month (unemployed) and I use Probux for the moment. Will start Adsense soon.

[Zyped]

Huge vouch for Marcellow.

Great guy, does great things.

[Fix Yo Bottles]

Online ready to help anyone in need, please throw us an email:)

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Hmm, i dabbled with the idea of submitted but to hell with it why not. Assuming this is anonymous i'm content with doing this.

I'm suicidal. But not self destructive. I'm not actively trying to drink bleach/pills/shoot myself or whatever. But if an opportunity presented itself to me i would take it without question. Just recently i got mugged, all he wanted was my phone. To me it was an opportunity so i did everything to provoke this man. i won't go into detail because it's offtopic but i assume you understand where i'm at. I don't enjoy life. i've seeked help previously, nothing has aided me. I honestly don't know why i'm still here.

First of all, I know you have noted that you have already looked for help but if I were you I'd seek help once more. I was in the same position once and I looked for a psychologist, these "doctors" have helped me through so much whether it'd be family troubles or suicidal thoughts, they help you through EVERYTHING and they actually listen to your thoughts so I suggest trying that once more. Theres always a light at the end of the tunnel, times may be hard now but I promise YOU that if you get through it good will come, if this wasn't enough to help you, I'd love to help you further via PM, your anonymity will kept a secret. Stay strong buddy, self harm is never the answer.

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Describe your problem:*: I am in high school and really want to have sex with one of my best mates, I like girls aswell as boys what should I do?

Well I would start out by finding out if your mate is gay or not.

[Rigel]

Online ready to help anyone in need, please throw us an email:)

Check the e-mail, that's where they get posted. You can answer the last one.

Okay, well basically I live with a single mother who I hate and love at the same time. She doesn't work, she sit's on her ass mooching off the government. I work every day after school for a few hours just to support us. I hate it. She doesn't even appreciate that I do that. She asks more from me. I'm the one who goes to the store (We don't have a car) so I'm walking 10 blocks just to get our food for the month and I'm carrying it back, alone.

She bitches about her life, act's like she's the victim and whenever I say anything about my life I'm being an ungrateful piece of shit. Sadly, in a few days from now I won't even have internet access which really sucks. The internet, and my amazing girlfriend are honestly the only things keeping me sane.

I've been in poverty my whole life. I've always been intelligent, and I've been in AP classes most of school. If we could've afforded it I would've been in a special school.

I also have an issue with drugs. I smoke weed almost everyday (Well whenever I can manage to pull the extra $5 out of my check without my mother noticing) and on the week ends I do other drugs. I'm not going into specifics but they are typically frowned upon.

I'm getting a full ride for college and believe me it feels great. I plan on being SOMEBODY in my life. I don't just want to be that weird poor kid anymore. I want to get out, get a job be somebody. Help others, not be a useless speck in the world like I currently am.

I want to move out, but I'm only 16 and I can't live on my own. I could, but I NEED to stay into school so I can go to college, so I can be somebody.

I don't know what to do. I hate my life essentially. I want to end it, but I don't want to leave my mother out to rot. I literally don't know what to do. I've tried making extra money on the internet so I can afford some new clothes, but I ended up fucking that up. I'm tired of just going to school, going to work, and coming home being told I'm worthless.

I honestly don't know what to do. Should I move out? I'm noticing my grades falling, my friends fading, my life seems shittier than ever. I'm sorry for such a long question, but you seem like you may be able to help.

That kind of situation reminds me of Kafka's "The Metamorphosis".

To start with, I would kick the habit of smoking weed as soon as possible because that $5 spent towards that habit could be better spent towards your access to Internet. It's going to be hard to do so but it will be well worth it because those drugs don't help at all unless for medical reasons. I wouldn't recommend moving out because supporting yourself is very hard at first (buying an apartment or paying rent) and almost impossible with the kind of money you're making right now. If I was in your situation, I would suck it up and endure the remaining 2 years since you're getting a full ride in college (I assume you're dorming) and the money that you would've wasted in moving out early can be put away towards books and other necessities. Just get those grades up, tolerate your mother a bit longer and reconnect with your friends. Get out and try to get some exercise in, it really helps with feeling better during hard times that can hit you like a ton of bricks when you feel vulnerable.

Life can be rough but you need to play with the cards you were given and make the best of it.

How would a closeted (male) homosexuals, that wants to remain closeted but still wants a relationship, go about finding another guy? I seriously have zero experience with this and I do not feel comfortable coming out yet. How can I pick up signals of other boys, that may be into me but are still closeted too? How do you know if another male likes you, when none of you both knows of the other that you're gay?

I'm seriously struggling with this as I do want a relationship but am not ready to come out yet. I have a terrible gaydar and I always think a boy is hitting on me and it always turns out he is not. I often get mixed signals from boys and that makes me all confused, so I'm resorting to you: what are some signals that another boy is into you? Keep in mind that the other boy would probably be closeted as well.

Hope you can answer my question.

That kind of relationship can work but only if you guys follow the "don't ask, don't tell" policy and really curb on the public displays of affection. Otherwise, the relationship would be doomed from the start because you'll be acting like you're ashamed of your partner and having feelings of guilt. Your partner might not mind it too much in the beginning but they will eventually resent it because you'll be hiding your relationship from the world and it may as well not exist. Sure you can hang out with them but you'll probably limit it to the point where you'll just hang out at home behind closed doors because you'll probably be too afraid to even take them out to eat.

Whose to say the other boy you might like will be closeted too? Chances are, they could be out to everyone and they're fine with dating someone out in the open. As for finding out what a guy's signals are, that's going to be very hard to find out since you can't really tell, he's probably closeted so he is indistinguishable from a heterosexual male and you want to be closeted so you can't ask their friends because it'll arouse suspicion. You would be surprised how well you can hide in the closet, no one had any idea that I was FTM until I came out to friends.

The only sure way to know, concerning the circumstances, is if they are already dating a guy or they just tell you straight out. Surefire ways to find bisexual/gay men are at LGBT support groups, LGBT conferences or LGBT pride event.

I am in high school and really want to have sex with one of my best mates, I like girls aswell as boys what should I do?

Are you a boy or a girl? I'll just assume male for the moment and that you want to get with your guy friend...? I would start bringing up the subject of LGBT topics and get a feel for how he reacts to such topics. If you two have mutual friends, you can ask if he's ever been with a boy and proceed from that point. You don't want to just jump in there without a plan, at least start hanging out with him more and see how he acts when he's with you.

[Fix Yo Bottles]

How do I keep a conversation going with a girl? I've always had problems with keeping conversations going even with my good friends. How do I got about this.

I suggest taking a look at this buddy.

http://m.wikihow.com/Keep-a-Conversation-Going

[Rigel]

Hmm, i dabbled with the idea of submitted but to hell with it why not. Assuming this is anonymous i'm content with doing this.

I'm suicidal. But not self destructive. I'm not actively trying to drink bleach/pills/shoot myself or whatever. But if an opportunity presented itself to me i would take it without question. Just recently i got mugged, all he wanted was my phone. To me it was an opportunity so i did everything to provoke this man. i won't go into detail because it's offtopic but i assume you understand where i'm at. I don't enjoy life. i've seeked help previously, nothing has aided me. I honestly don't know why i'm still here.

I used to be just like you. I thought about killing myself but I never have because deep down, even when things looked real grim, I had this weird feeling that life will get better. Have you tried going to the gym, read a few books or pursuing a few hobbies? Sounds like you have no clear direction so far and that's okay, this can turn around for the better. Just remember that change can happen and that it all starts with changing yourself.

I can give you all the advice you need but you have to be able to pick yourself up and keep moving forward.

[soatok]

I wasn't aware that this was even a thing.

Would you like me to help set up a .onion so you can assure the anonymity of the people seeking help? :)