How to spot a toxic relationship
Posted May 22, 2020 08:03 AM
How to spot a toxic relationship
by LukaNo007
We all come from different paths of life, but there will always be some experiences we will share. Some positive, and some less positive. One of the less positive ones being arguments. We've all been in one. Some more often than others. Don't get me wrong, arguments can be great for learning new things and exploring different points of view about a certain topic. But sadly there also the arguments we all hate - which we end frustrated, angry and emotional. Those arguments are usually started by toxic individuals. But wait. What even is a "toxic" person?
A toxic individual is very negative and angry. They just have that power which lets them turn something as simple as deciding what to eat for lunch into a vicious argument which never ends well for you or them. These people can be acquaintances, friends, family... In some cases it can even be the person you're married to. So how to detect these people and avoid them? Well, here are some common things toxic people like:
1. Manipulation
Keep in mind these people do not care at all about your well being and will often try making you feel like you owe them something, like you are selfish and not willing to contribute to the relationship, when in reality it's the other way around.
2. Gaslighting
Sometimes when arguing with a toxic person you will push them into a corner. They thrive off of steering the conversation into something that will make them look good and when they can't do that they will gaslight. Gaslighting is basically making up situations and scenarios and making you feel bad about forgetting them. This will often leave you frustrated and confused.
4. Projecting
What does this mean? It means that whenever you confront them about their negative behaviour they will try to make you think you influenced it by being negative, angry, mean etc.
5. Ignore your success
Whenever you make a mistake these people will be the first in line to yell at you and make you feel bad. However, the same can't be said when you do something noble or productive. You would be lucky to get a "Nice" from them if you fed the entire population of Africa.
How to deal with toxic people
Distnce yourself from them. Don't confront them, they won't listen to you. Ever. You're much better off saving your time for someone who deserves it. Like a friend or a partner.
Hopefully this blog has helped you surround yourself with a better crowd and live a mentally healthier life.
Thank you for reading. Have an awesome day!
